How To Stay Safe
A safety planning guide for victims is a resource that provides practical strategies and advice to help individuals protect themselves and plan for their safety. It includes information on creating a personalized safety plan, accessing support services, and understanding legal options. We have developed a safety guide that you can download here. Victim advocates at law enforcement agencies and solicitor’s offices may also be able to assist in a customized safety plan.
In 2024, South Carolina established the address confidentiality program to protect victims of domestic violence, human trafficking, stalking, harassment, or sexual offenses by authorizing the use of designated addresses for such victims. The program is to be administered by the Attorney General. However, details on how to apply for the program have not yet been published. In the meantime, there are other ways victims can protect their address, such as switching to a P.O. box, deleting their address from “people search” websites by contacting the website’s administrators, and submitting a google removal request.
First, identify two close friends or family members with whom you can stay in case of an emergency, and develop a detailed emergency plan with them.
Next, determine which property and debts you share with the perpetrator to understand your financial situation. If you do not already have one, open a personal bank account and transfer your money into it, including any paychecks you receive. If you are not currently employed, consider seeking job training and updating your resume. For assistance with this process, visit S.C. Works for resources and guidance.
To enhance digital security, change the passwords for all your electronic accounts, including email and social media. Additionally, disable location services on all devices and apps, such as Snapchat and Find My Phone, to prevent tracking. Keep in mind that if the perpetrator shares your cell phone account, they may have access to billing records, including call and text message history.
Begin by changing all passwords for your computer and online accounts to protect your digital security. Install security features in your home, such as cameras, alarms, or additional locks. If the perpetrator has ever had access to a key, change the locks on all doors to prevent unauthorized entry.
Inform your neighbors that the perpetrator no longer lives in your home and ask them to call the police if they see the perpetrator nearby. Take steps to protect your personal information, including your address, workplace, and your children’s schools. Notify your children’s school or daycare about the situation to ensure they are aware of any safety concerns.
To reduce the risk of being followed or found, change your routine. Shop, bank, and conduct personal business at locations you did not previously visit with the perpetrator. Store important personal items, such as diaries, journals, personal letters, and calendars, in a secure place outside of your home.
If you have a restraining order, keep copies in multiple locations, such as your vehicle, handbag, and home. Share copies with trusted family members or friends. Additionally, prepare for a quick departure by keeping money, a spare set of keys, and a “go bag” with essential items in a safe location or with a trusted friend or family member. Identify a close friend or family member with whom you can stay in case of an emergency.
To maintain safety, avoid contact with the perpetrator. Screen all telephone calls and refrain from opening mail that does not have a return address.
These safety planning steps are general recommendations and may not apply to every situation. For information on restraining orders, contact SCVAN’s Legal Department.
If you or someone in your household is in immediate danger, call 911. If possible, use a landline, as it will automatically provide your location to dispatchers, even if you are unable to speak.
Choose two trusted friends or family members as emergency contacts. Develop a detailed emergency plan with them, including a safe method of communication and a designated meeting place in case you need to leave quickly.
Establish a discreet “code word” that you can text to your emergency contacts if you need help leaving the abusive situation. This could be an uncommon emoji or a short, seemingly casual phrase like “You up?” or “Is it raining over there?”
Start setting aside money for emergencies. When shopping for essentials, consider purchasing gift cards and storing them in a secure place so you have access to funds if you need to leave unexpectedly.
Regularly clear your internet browser history to prevent tracking. If possible, keep your phone locked and protected with fingerprint or facial recognition scanning to ensure your privacy and security.
To stay safer online and on social media, limit the sharing of emails, texts, and posts you wouldn’t want the perpetrator to access, as all written communication can be saved by the viewer. Be cautious with friend requests—only accept them from people you know well, and remove any followers you don’t know personally. If someone posts a threatening message on social media, including Snapchat, take a screenshot and report it to law enforcement. Review the privacy settings on your apps and social media to ensure your location is not publicly visible, and keep personal information private. Avoid sharing details about your job, school, or relationship status in public posts. When posting photos or videos, pay attention to any landmarks, logos, or other identifiable information in the background. Immediately change your passwords for social media, bank accounts, shopping sites, and your cell phone. Never share your passwords with anyone, including close friends or family members. Use private browsing mode when accessing the internet, and make it a habit to clear your cookies and browsing history regularly. Be sure to change your passwords often for added security.
